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I'm very angry, pissed off and devastated all at the same time. It's such a long story, but imma simplify it a lil so this doesn't become a five page essay. Basically, after my father died, me, my sister, my 1 year old nephew and my sister's boyfriend all went to stay at my brother's girlfriend's apartment. We were kind of kicked out of our house until we could have some maintenance be done. We were there for 2 days. Everything was fine. Then my uncle and aunt came down helped us fixed the house a lil so we could move back in. It's not perfectly fixed yet, but is definitely more suitable for living. Me and my sister have been home for a couple days, I left my stuff at their apartment thinking I'm going to be back there until the house is fully operational cause that's what my sister is doing. My brother's girlfriend told my sister there was no room for me. But, I was there for 2 days and there was room, how can there all of a sudden be no room?! It was a one bedroom apartment, I was on the couch, my sister and her boyfriend were on the air mattress and my nephew had a playpen, so like we were making it work. There was no problem. I don't. That's not exactly what I'm pissed at tho. I'm mad because I've been trying for days to find a ride to get my stuff out of their apartment cause I knew if they tried to bring my stuff back they'd forget shit. Today they came to help us sign some paperwork for the funeral or whatever so, instead of consulting me and asking if they can bring me my stuff, they did it anyways, and I was right. They forgot some important shit of mine. The main reason why I'm upset is because they couldn't have told me to my face, they told my sister?!? Like, I'm an adult, okay, communicate with me. Sure, I'd be upset, but I'd get over it. I'm reasonable. Now, huh. This shows that they don't trust me. If they can't trust me, how can I trust them? And if I can't trust them, then I don't want them in my life. I honestly don't even think that's the real reason as to why they wanted me out. They wanted me out cause I caught my brother, who was supposed to be sober, high af. He's been lying to us about his sobriety or he relapsed idk. But, I'm done. I'm getting the rest of my stuff out of their apartment and I'm cutting him off. I'm so sorry for this lengthy ass rant. I really feel like I needed somewhere free to vent this all out.
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I’m sorry the issues with your accommodation and being unsettled are impacting upon and complicating your grieving process. Family are rarely easy to handle even at the best of times but they are worth maintaining links to. You don’t mention your Mother in all of this but she (in her role as the matriarch and head of your family) is the one I would advise you remain tightest with and the bond that you focus most on maintaining through all of this.
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@Dax Diameter I totally understand what you're getting at, but my mother wasn't important to the situation which is why I never mentioned her. She has all the support in the world, she has me and my siblings, her grandchildren, her 5 siblings (she technically has 7 siblings, but has since lost contact with 2 of them), my dad's side of the family who came down to help with the house, her friends, she's alright for the meantime. My older sister has been a big help with watching her and keeping an eye on her and helping her. I'm so grateful for that. She also helped my mother figure out how to arrange the funeral and everything. Honestly, I'm impressed.
I disagree with maintaining links to family. I come from a large family who all have their fair share of baggage, drama, addictions, etc. I do love them with my whole heart. But, nobody knows my family like myself. I don't care if someone is blood related to me, if it's time to cut the ties with them, so be it. I'm tired of the lies, pain, and betraying that has been going on for decades. There are some bridges that can't be fixed and some apologies that can't right what's been wronged.
I appreciate your support and I look forward to overcoming this absolutely tragic heartbreaking loss. Time will tell I guess. I just hope I come out of this stronger than ever before. I really need that right now.
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